In a land of customs and traditions, marriage is considered a holy union, which must be entered into only with utmost care and safety. The Hindu concept of marriage states that this holy union is formed between a couple not just in this life, but for their next seven lives as well. For the success of this wish, it is important for the couple who are being joined in marriage to be perfectly compatible.
How is this compatibility measured?
One of the most important rituals which are done before committing marriage to the potential bride and groom are the matching of the kundalis. This is a process of matching the birth signs, sun signs, horoscopes, planetary positions and many such factors done by an astrologer. This allows the families as well as the couple to get an insight into the success or failure of their impending marriage. It has been seen that often, due to kundali scores not matching, several marriages are called off. While these incidents were far more prevalent during older times, it is still practiced in many families.
So can kundali matching of a couple save them from a troubled marriage or a relationship?
The answer lies in a very scientific explanation.
When kundalis of two people are matched, one of the first things to be matched are the individuals birth signs and horoscopes. Whether a person believes in astrology or not, is has in fact been observed that those belonging to a certain ‘sun sign’ exhibit certain distinctive traits, which are similar to those who share their sun sign. While this is not always the case as there can always be exceptions, this is a general rule.
When matching kundali, the distinct personality traits of the two individuals, the prospective bride and groom and matched for compatibility. While it is true that a match can not guarantee that a relationship or a marriage will be a success, the basic thing that the kundali matching is doing, is comparing character traits of the two individuals to ascertain how well they would be compatible in the future. It goes along the lines of thinking that two dominant personalities might encounter more fights than if one individual was dominant while the other one was submissive. Thus, if one of the individuals in the couple is, say a Leo (a dominant personality), the might match better with an Aries (also a dominant personality) than with a Pisces (a submissive personality).
However, even this is not a rule which is set in stone, as some of the best Kundali matches have ended up in failed marriages, simply due to the individuals not willing to make it work. This is where the modern concept of marriage lies in.
Most of the modern world does not believe that Kundali matching can determine the success or failure of a marriage. This is because it is believed that if a couple has a good sense of understanding and communications skills between them, even the worst of the Kundali matches can be over come.
It has also been seen that Kundali matching is done only in Hindu culture. Does this mean that marriages of other religions which do not follow Kundali matching are not a success?
The answer is no.
Kundali matching can also at time, prove to be more dangerous than helpful. This is seen in cases where marriages are broken off or called off by families, simply due to kundali scores not matching. This is often a clever ruse attempted by pundits, who will chalk up fake kundali matches simply to scare the family into taking part in pujas, rituals and remedies to improve the chances of the Kundali match. This will, in turn, allow the pundit to make more profits off the miserable, conflicted couple.
Thus, kundali marriage to save a trouble marriage or relationship has been a highly debatable topic for ages now. The debate around the topic is that if a couple has been in a relationship with each other for a significant period of time, they would be able to judge their own compatibility. The flaws and issues which a kundali matching would reveal would be nothing new to the couple, and they might have found ways to work around these issues.
However, kundali matching can also help determine issues revolving around their progeny. Relying on kundali matching blinding for determining whether a married couple will successfully have children or not can seem very outdated. The same results can be determined by visiting a doctor who will be able to tell you the results by conducting some test in a more scientific manner than an astrologer would be able to tell you.
Thus, while kundali marriages have a chance of working, they also have equal chances of being unsuccessful. Simply replying on kundali marriage for a successful marriage is not a smart choice.
